Reflections For All Seasons
The blog of a twenty something year old INTJ.
I don’t get it…

I’m 23. Most of the people I talk to are 23. Somehow, all these 23 year old women have this fear of being forever alone. It’s suddenly time to start thinking about settling because you might not find another person who wants you, so you have to take what you can get. It’s suddenly time to think that if you don’t start dating now (so that you have at least 5 years of relationship experience under your belt), you won’t be able to get married by the magic age of 28. It’s suddenly time to consider the fact that giving birth to a child will become exponentially harder as our age goes up.

Wtf? Can someone explain to me what this strange phenomenon is?

I seriously think that we’re still quite young? I mean, we’re in LA, so it’s definitely acceptable to get married and start a family at a later age. Are my friends maybe influenced by their Asian (mostly Chinese) culture (i.e., it’s blasphemous to be 30 and not married)? Seriously though… who can guarantee that a person’s marriage will not end up in divorce? I don’t mean to be pessimistic, but really… why don’t people understand that marriage is not some sort of destination? Your life doesn’t suddenly become some kind of beautiful fairy tale after marriage. You still have to work on your relationship but with even more complex factors than before (in-laws, children, etc.). 

Enjoy your youth! Don’t waste your time worrying about non-issues!

❝ A great fire burns within me, but no one stops to warm themselves at it, and passers-by only see a wisp of smoke. ❞

— Vincent van Gogh (via leviathanrose)

❝ You can’t keep dancing with the devil and ask why you’re still in hell ❞
❝ Not until we are lost do we begin to understand ourselves. ❞

— Henry David Thoreau (via psych-facts)

❝ What I hate is ignorance, smallness of imagination, the eye that sees no farther than its own lashes. All things are possible. Who you are is limited only by who you think you are. ❞


Egyptian Book of the Dead (via dyslecix)


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Ask by berrypassion:

"I’ve been taking some MBTI tests throughout the months, and I got mostly INTJ but sometimes ISTJ. From the results, I have a high percentage towards the I, T and J(100% most of the time), but when it comes to the Sensing vs Intuition, the result varies. It is just a…

My test results are actually very similar to the person that submitted this ask. My preferences for I, T, and J are very, very clear. However, when it comes to N and S, they’re almost always split in the middle. According to some other tests, my N is only a little more developed than my S, but they’re both just barely developed. It appears that I don’t have a real preference for either.

I’ve done quite a bit of research on the matter, but, really, it just comes down to your own personal preference. There has to be a personality type that you identify with more than the other.

I am a big picture person (Ni, leading function for INTJs) that cares about the details (Si, leading function for ISTJs)—both descriptions resonate with my personality. If I were to complete a project, I would say that the results are the most important to me. However, the details are just as important. I personally believe that being attentive to details throughout the whole process would ensure good results. That’s characteristically an Si thing, but I suspect that my strong preference for J might, to some degree, play a part in that. So, I personally identify with INTJs more.

I’ve been told that I might be an INTJ who is influenced by a characteristically SJ culture but not an ISTJ. It’s a very good point that I never thought of before. I am Chinese-American, and my parents are quite traditional Chinese people. I am respectful and obedient to my parents and have been taught to have those same mannerisms with authority figures. My parents follow “rules”, and so I am naturally expected to follow “rules” as well. Traditional Chinese upbringing is very SJ. Obviously, it’ll differ from family to family, but that’s definitely what I’ve experienced.

I’d like to add that I respect authority if, and only if, they deserve my respect. I follow rules if, and only if, if doing so makes a process more efficient. So, while I did grow up in a very SJ environment, I am definitely still an INTJ.


I hate it when people talk out of their asses. Like… why do people do it?

If you aren’t 100% sure about whatever it is that you’re talking about, please just say you don’t know. You might be misleading someone with false information, and you never know how that can affect him/her.

I’m being a little dramatic, I guess. But, seriously, how annoying is that?

To be shown that there are people who are actually looking out for me makes me feel so blessed.

I guess this is not something I can usually witness (particularly because I am hardly in situations that require another person’s help), so even the smallest gestures are really touching.

Lol, I regained faith in humanity for like two seconds.


One of the most important things to remember about Rationals, if they are to be understood, is that they yearn for achievement. Some might suppose that these seemingly calm and contemplative types have no strong desires. But beneath the calm exterior is a gnawing hunger to achieve whatever goals they set for themselves.

- David Keirsey, Please Understand Me II

I once took a Buddhism class. The main takeaway for me is that the denial of impermanence is at the root of all our sufferings.

What’s strange is that I think I’ve fully accepted that all things are impermanent. I understood the concept of impermanence before I even took the class. But, somehow, that has affected my life more negatively than positively.

Buddha, you trollin’ me. :(

❝ Every act of rebellion expresses a nostalgia for innocence and an appeal to the essence of being. ❞

— Albert Camus, The Rebel

❝ I am hopelessly in love with a memory.
An echo from another time, another place. ❞
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